Tuesday, September 22, 2015


I can't believe tomorrow is the solstice and the beginning of fall. As I begin my second year of retirement, here is a glimpse into my day.... Outside my window: The sun is shining. I can see a big, yellow swallowtail butterfly on my butterfly bush. There have been a few hummingbirds around our feeder. I am thinking: about the supermoon and the eclipse on Sunday 9/27. I hope the evening is clear so we can see it. I am thankful: for my health. My daughter and I were able to participate in the Addiction Awareness 5K last Sunday. I am wearing: jeans and a t-shirt I am going: Lily and I are going to the Y program at Hessed House this afternoon. To read with the kids there. I am reading: Zig-Zag Girl by Elly Griffith Plans for the week: A trip to Target, the dentist, walk with a friend, pilates

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Life Throws A Curve Ball

I've been retired for two months now. It was not my decision and I'm still reeling from the shock. My sister was diagnosed with cancer. My husband and I were passing like ships in the night as we flew back and for to Colorado to care for her. In February we got the news that there wasn't anything else the doctors could do---chemo wasn't working & there weren't any trials---so my sister went on hospice care. My daughter was moving to Japan. My husband developed a serious infection in his foot and had to have surgery. I was worrying about him as I packed my bags and prepared to move in with my sister and act as her caregiver.
I kept in contact with work primarily to have something to think about besides watching my sister die. My boss seemed to be caring and supportive-telling me not to worry about work. My sister died April 30. I had so many things to deal with I didn't tell work( or anyone besides immediate family for that matter) right away. I knew I still had a few sick days and vacation time to use and I thought I was being responsible by giving my boss a definite date for my return. I walked into work after being gone for over 2 months, still grieving for my sister and adjusting to being in my own house again. My boss called me into her her office to meet with the HR person to discuss my time off. I was informed that I was in violation of company policy and subject to disciplinary action. I didn't know what to say. Caring for my sister didn't stop when she died, I still had time coming to me, no one, my boss or HR, had said anything about this beforehand. I was told that I would know my fate in a couple of days. I tried to focus on work, but my brain kept going over and over the interview. What should I have said, done, not done.....What will they do???? A "bad girl" letter and make me pay back the time??? They called my in at 4:00 on Thursday afternoon and handed me a paper that said TERMINATED. What?? This was a bad dream. I've been with the organization 17 years, I love my job, I've always been the good girl who followed the rules, heck I was a person in charge who enforced the rules. I sat in stunned silence. . Ding! Ding! Ding! For today only we have a blue light special Instead of being fired I could retire, but I had to decide then and there. I called my husband in tears and we decided retirement was the best of the worst. After I told them about my decision the HR person started talking about what kind of cake I would like. (Really, you've just destroyed my career and taken away my income and I'm supposed to care about cake???). Then they were both kind enough to tell me that since I must be so stressed I didn't have to work until 9:00 that night. So I bolted out the door and went home in tears. Some how I got through the next two weeks, concentrating on doing my job and getting things in order for my replacement. My boss had the temerity to tell me how graceful I was during all this. (Really bitch, wtf do you want me to do? I am leaving with some dignity). I didn't tell anyone at work what really happened. I was afraid if I said anything it would affect my retirement benefits and I was humiliated and embaressed. I smiled through my retirement party, listened to the laundry list of all the wonderful things I had accomplished, hugged my co-workers and didn't even wince when my boss hugged me and told me how much she would miss me. I held my head up and I walked out the door to my car. And then cried all the way home, wondering what my future holds.

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Spotted Photo Theme

iHanna has started a Spotted Photo theme over at her blog. This week's theme is your favorite animal, which is a perfect excuse to post some photos of my favorite dog, Lily.
Lily is supposed to be part Australian shepherd and Airedale, but your guess is as good as mine. We adopted her from the local animal shelter about 5 years ago.
She loves long walks, especially at the dog park and treats. She knows a few tricks, but doesn't like to play with toys.
She is terrified of thunderstorms and we have spent lots of time hiding in the bathroom together.

Sunday, September 23, 2012


I discovered an new blog, "The Simple Woman's Daybook". Here is a glimpse into my day. Outside my window...the sun is setting on the first day of fall. I am thinking...how fast the summer has gone. I am thankful...I have so many things to be thankful for. In the kitchen...I'm making chili and homemade bread. I am wearing...my "chilly dog" t-shirt. It was in the 40's this morning. I am creating...I'm following the prompts from Sarah at Soul Journaling I am going...to relax. I am wondering...if they really found the bones of Richard III. I am reading...I checked out a Nook from the local library and started "Gone Girl". I am looking forward to...getting a new kitten. I am learning...how to kayak. Around the house...someday I will clean out the basement. One of my favorite things...going to the dog park with my dog. A few plans for the rest of the week: Work, pilates, a cooking class with my daughter. A peek into my day...Spinning, petting cats at the animal shelter, reading the paper.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Art Journaling

I've discovered art journaling. I am not an artist by any means, but I took an art journaling class at the local college and found it very accessible. We drew, painted, cut and pasted. No one judged or graded my efforts. And I had fun. I've started subscribing to several blogs and checking books out of the library. I came across a fun one called "Personal Geographies" by Jill Berry. It is well written, with instructions even non-artists can understand and has great photos. I haven't had a chance to try all the projects yet. But since I grew up in Michigan I did make a map of my hand. Check out Jill's new blog and get more information about her book.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Titanic-100 Years Later

What is it about the Titanic that still facinates us after 100 years? It is such a compelling story of loss, heroism,stupidity and fate. The 100th anniversary has brought forth a number of books and the re-release of the movie. I won't watch Kate and Leo again--I started crying during the opening credits. But I may have gone a bit overboard in my choice of reading material lately.
Yet, with each book I've learned something new. Did you know that 3 dogs survived the sinking? Or that stewardess, Violet Jessup, served on the Olympic, Titanic and Britannic. I can't imagine how awful it must have been for the crew of the McKay Bennett to have to retrieve all the bodies. I do think its time to take a break and read about something else. But someone mentioned there was a book about the Titanic cat.

Saturday, February 4, 2012

Blizzard of Glass by Sally Walker

December 6, 1917 was a normal day in Halifax, Nova Scotia. People went to work, children went to school. All this changed when two ships collided in the harbor, unleashing the largest man-made explosion before the atomic bomb. This book provides a riveting account of the explosion, and the tsunami and blizzard that followed. It is the story of devestation, as well as a community and nation coming together to deal with the disaster. Walker has written another engrossing book.